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Vol.3.130

Coms insyts

by Vince Poscente
Author of The Ant and the Elephant, Invinceable Principles and The Age of Speed

"Dad, don't be stupid."
"I wish you weren't my mom."
"You're wrecking my life."

Guess who says that? (It rhymes with lean edger.)

"You weren't that way when I married you."
"I said I love you last year. You're so needy."
"Is your life insurance paid up?"

Source? (Sounds like grouse.)

These comments are reminiscent of an Italian proverb: Little children, headache; big children, heartache.

How we communicate is at the very core of our human experience. Yet the way we communicate to those closest to us can be caustic and inhibiting. Moving forward is important to everyone. But we get in our own way far too much for this topic to be ignored.

Everyone can relate to being hurt by relatives. Teens can say hurtful things. So do big kids (those big kids with mortgages and mini vans). They can relate to a Twitter posting from a few months back:

"Question: Do you speak to your spouse with the same respect you speak to a stranger?"

This retweeted like wildfire. It struck a nerve because it hit close to home. And if home is indeed where the heart is, then communicating with respect, no matter what state your bank account or hormones are in, is a good place to start.

Here are three things to remember when communicating.

 

  1. Ask questions instead of making statements. By asking questions you show that you care and you are listening.
  2. Would you rather be right or happy? "Both!" is not an answer. Pick happy.
  3. Speak to people close to you with the same respect you speak to strangers.

 

If you're textually active, here's the info:

 

  1. Ask Nstead of makin statmnts. By askN u shO dat u care +U r listnin.
  2. w%d u rthR B ryt or happy? "Both!" aint an ans. pik hpE.
  3. spk 2 ppl close2U asif thyre strangers.

 

Communicating with respect accelerates the outcome you seek.

unl, of corZ, ur a dufus. thN it's 2 L8 4 u.

Until next week, it's full speed ahead,
 

Vince
Vince Poscente
New York Times Bestselling Author
Speaker Hall of Fame and Olympian
April 14, 2010
Vol.3.130

By the way, if you seek better relationships, check out Creating Peace of Mind.

 

 

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